17th April 2024

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(Editor’s Notice, this letter was written earlier than Doc’s demise in August, 2020 however nonetheless related as Doc’s rules are timeless).

Hey Doc,

I’m a newcomer to “The System” however it’s actually turned issues round for me. Thanks!

Right here’s my state of affairs. My buddies and I’ve been consuming on the identical restaurant for a number of years now. One waitress who works there, Brigitte, is a Lovely Girl and an actual sweetheart. Lately, I seen her making eyes at me. Earlier than letting my ego shoot via the roof, I attempted to undervalue her Curiosity Stage and saved to my typical routine, which was nothing greater than “good day” and “goodbye.” Additionally, a few of her feminine coworkers started to drop her identify quite a bit to me. They even requested if I “missed” her when she was off one evening.

I took this as a very good signal, however Brigitte quickly revealed that she had a boyfriend she was going fishing with the subsequent day. I ended the dialog, however her earlier flirty habits continued. The boyfriend was not talked about once more, nor did any of her coworkers ever point out him.

Since then, Brigitte will get actually excited each time I see her on the restaurant, is at all times very attentive to me, and at all times offers me prolonged eye contact. After I depart the restaurant she at all times asks if she’ll see me the subsequent time I are available. I’ve not requested for her cellphone quantity due to the boyfriend.

What do you suppose I ought to do, Doc? Any recommendation can be vastly appreciated.

Addison – who wonders if he ought to eat someplace else


Hello Addison,

Precisely how have you learnt that Brigitte’s coronary heart is nice? You don’t actually know something about this lady, do you?

Now when a woman offers you any sort of shopping for alerts, you’re presupposed to ask for the cellphone quantity. You may personal my e book, Addison, however with the intention to make it work at most effectiveness, you’ve bought to MEMORIZE it. You’ve bought to observe it till it’s second nature. My strategies will present you that if the lady turns you down, she was simply flirting for larger suggestions. And that’s why you must go for it – to get rid of all doubts about the place she’s actually coming from.

That is truly the place the complete state of affairs turns into the sort of scene a forensic love detective would have a area day with. Suppose it about it. Brigitte is supplying you with all of the alerts however has no intention of following via. One thing’s not proper. Guys, you understand what this implies: Brigitte is faking excessive Curiosity Stage.

And naturally that’s when she reveals that she’s going fishing along with her boyfriend the subsequent day. Solely it actually appears like she’s baiting you and that you just’re the large fish who’s about to get hooked.

And who cares if Brigitte’s coworkers don’t point out her boyfriend? All you must care about is her Curiosity Stage in you. However what you’ve got here’s a lady with a boyfriend who likes to play with different guys’ heads and egos. That’s all there’s to it.

Positive, Brigitte will get excited when she sees you. However not excited sufficient to eliminate her boyfriend. And he or she’s very attentive to you as properly – however solely when her boyfriend’s not round.

Addison, when this cutie batted her eyes at you, you must have gone straight for that cellphone quantity. Then, when she turned you down and mentioned, “I can’t — I’ve a boyfriend,” and also you wouldn’t have needed to order your meat loaf and mashed potatoes at her restaurant each evening.

Nonetheless, I do suppose you want a very good dose of actuality, Addison. Since you truly did overestimate Brigitte’s Curiosity Stage, regardless of what you suppose. Man, you have to be leaving this lady some monster gratuities!

Bear in mind, guys: generally waitresses faux Curiosity Stage to allow them to decide up larger suggestions.

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