4th March 2024


(Editor’s Notice, this letter was written earlier than Doc’s dying in August, 2020 however nonetheless related as Doc’s rules are timeless).

Upcoming vacation schedule:  No articles or weekly emails 12/21/2023 or 12/28/2023 – weekly articles and emails resume on 1/4/2024 (however we may have weekly articles and emails 11/30, 12/7 & 12/14 )

Hey Doc,

I hope you will be affected person with me. I did every thing flawed and I do know it.

I’m 28 and work with an incredible lady, Kelsey. From the very first second I noticed her I assumed she might be the one. I wished to satisfy her like loopy however I didn’t go for it for 2 causes. To start with, as a result of she is SO stunning that I wouldn’t even dream {that a} lady like her could be obtainable. Second, I’m not a fan of relationship individuals I work with. However I REALLY appreciated her!

Sooner or later, a number of months after I first noticed her, we talked on the cellphone for a enterprise purpose. The discuss was so heat that she invited me to her workplace for espresso. We met, and I may sense that she appreciated me too. At that time we began speaking through e-mail. The whole lot appeared good so I requested for her cellphone quantity and known as her the identical night time. She began bombing me with calls. She even requested if I used to be single.

Just a few days later Kelsey mentioned that she simply got here out of a five-year relationship. (She dumped the man.) She informed me it was a foul interval for her and she or he didn’t need to rush issues, however she likes me loads and wished to take it actually sluggish. Over the next days I requested her twice to exit however she mentioned it was too quickly. I didn’t ask her once more and all of a sudden one night time she mentioned she wished to see me the next day.

We went out for a drink after which she requested me to take her to the seashore. I attempted to kiss her however she backed off. She informed me that kissing me would make issues extra sophisticated as a result of then she would begin to really feel issues for me. I informed her no drawback, take your time and maybe we are able to exit another time if you wish to. Then she grabbed me and kissed me and we made out for hours! I left with the sensation that we lastly made a begin.

The following night time I used to be out with mates and despatched Kelsey a few texts early within the morning to which she didn’t reply. The following morning Kelsey informed me that she felt stress. She kissed me on the seashore as a result of she thought that she may overcome that feeling of stress, however it didn’t work out for her in any case. She informed me that in the meanwhile she couldn’t provide something to me. All she desires is to be together with her mates and have enjoyable. I informed her that she will be able to have as a lot house and time as she desires, and that I like her a lot I can anticipate her to clear her thoughts.

We haven’t spoken for days since, other than one time at work for enterprise. I do know I rushed issues a hell of loads! I do know that I in all probability did all of the flawed issues. However please coach me. My query is, what ought to I do now? I need Kelsey! I’m positive you assume I’m an fool, however Kelsey is the girl of my life. Her birthday is subsequent week. Ought to I give her a gift? Ship flowers? Thanks for any perception.

Shelton – who ought to have hit the brakes

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