4th March 2024

Posted by Sandy Weiner in relationship after divorce, love after 40 | zero feedback

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Why is Jen so scared thus far once more? It’s been ten years since a devastating breakup, and she or he’s discovering it onerous to maneuver on…

On this episode of Final First Date Radio, I coach Jen, a girl who’s afraid thus far once more. Ten years in the past, she was blindsided when her boyfriend of three years abruptly ended the connection with none clarification. She desires to open her coronary heart to like once more, however she doesn’t know the way.

Hear as I assist her:

  • Determine her unhealthy relationship patterns
  • See the connection between her relationship along with her mom and the boys she’s dated
  • Refine her relationship questions and must-have and deal breaker lists
  • Reframe how she thinks about males

EP 589: Dwell Teaching with Jen: Why Am I So Scared To Date Once more?

For those who’ve ever been scared thus far once more after a breakup, this episode is for you!

Jen wrote in to the podcast: “10 years in the past, I used to be dumped with none discover. Now, I’m very scared thus far once more. I used to be blindsided. I assumed he was the one. Issues had been great till sooner or later they weren’t. I used to be reeling and confused for quite a few years, foolishly hoping he would come again and hoping for closure. I noticed two years in the past that the issue was his and I’m sufficient. I’ve wasted years with a damaged coronary heart and I’ve a lot love to present. I requested all the precise questions and nonetheless bought harm. I’ve performed numerous studying, listening to the podcast and following your group on Fb, however I’m so scared to strive once more. It’s safer to be content material alone however I would really like a lot extra. I notice there aren’t any ensures so I’m in search of assist in opening my coronary heart to like once more.”

She was in that relationship for 3 years. He broke up twice, each occasions with out warning. After the primary breakup, he went to counseling for eight weeks and stated he’d modified and needed her again. However, he left her once more, and she or he was devastated.

Questions I requested her about her love blueprint:

  1. Do you end up drawn to a “sort”? 
  2. Do you’re feeling a reference to these males that’s acquainted? 
  3. Do you make excuses on your companion’s conduct towards you? 
  4. Do you end up not talking up attributable to a worry of rejection?
  5. Do you end up enduring hurtful conduct?

What are Jen’s greatest fears in relationship once more? Asking the precise questions earlier than getting concerned, listening to their solutions, after which falling for somebody who leaves her. 

The questions Jen was asking males earlier than our session:

1. When was your final relationship?

2. Is it performed and over, no likelihood of getting again collectively?

3. Are you relationship severely or casually? 

A query that will be extra useful: What did you be taught out of your final breakup?

Jen’s Homework

  1. Ask the precise questions if you date: What did you be taught out of your final breakup? See in the event that they take duty for why the connection ended. 
  2. Refine your must-haves and deal breakers and search for them if you date. 
  3. Reframe your beliefs round males and what’s attainable in a relationship.

Watch this episode on YouTube

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What’s your greatest takeaway from Jen’s session with me? Which half resonated most?

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